I think it is important to accept the fact that you are going to be down sometimes.
But if you allow yourself to think about the problems you face, and other people face, and how you would solvc them, you have a shot.
You are a decision away from getting back on track.
You may just be down for awhile first.
Take responsibility for the bad decision, learn from it, embrace the failure, and soldier on without fear because you are only one decision away from getting back on track. But this attitude and approach takes a lot of discipline and self-confidence, because being right is very important to most of us. It is a powerful need, it must be overcome.
Start with No
by Jim Camp
We offer a way to do this.
That is a bold claim. Take me on. See if I can help you discover that it happens to be true.
Call Wim Chase
www.campnegotiationinstitute.com
(401) 338-8915
You will most likely progress in your career without the Camp Negotiation Institute. Your habit of learning and growing got you to where you are, and it will take you further. At Camp we are not interested in simply helping you progress. If all you do is become a better negotiator with us, we will have failed according to our standards. We want to accelerate your progress, and leave you with the means to safely accelerate on your own whenever you want. If you don’t like rapid change, and don’t like to go faster, Camp is not for you. It is for this reason that we start by being sure that you are very comfortable telling us no. We don’t want to push this on anyone. With Camp you will become a leader and as any leader will tell you, it is lonely at the front and can be disorienting when you are in the habit of getting your bearings by looking to those who are ahead. This really isn’t for everyone. But for some, it is exactly what they have been waiting for.
What are you waiting for?
We remain ready for your journey with us to either end or begin.
I hope to hear from you.
Wim Chase
401-338-8915
To consciously impact the quality of decisions and agreements of everyone I interact with so as to optimize their personal and professional health and growth thoughout their life and beyond. I do this by daily implementing superior methods of preparation, management and execution of all my activity and behavior.
So who wants to ‘interact’ with me now? 
Quoted from Paul McKenna
Please comment
-Wim
Budget problems fester
We don’t mean to pester
But is that the best you can come up with? a sequester !
We’d be better off being governed by a jester.
The Camp system adheres to the principle that all decisions are 100% emotional until a decision has been reached. I don’t know about you, but I found that to be pretty disturbing when I first heard it. I tended to blame my emotions for my bad decisions, and credit my intellect for good ones. Emotions can be wild and unpredictable, and in most negotiations, there is no sheriff to keep you safe.
Let’s examine how emotions play out on our internal mental landscape. Let’s say I am making a decision to ask a friend for a favor. Sticking with the wild west metaphor, let’s say I want to borrow a horse. It starts with an idea in my mind that I could ask a friend for this favor. I see myself asking, and then I see problems with asking. I decide not to ask. Decision made. I will not ask. The pressure is off, and my intellect begins to poke around and ask questions. “I could have solved that problem this way”. Now the decision to ask or not looks differently, and my emotions respond to it differently. I say yes, I will ask this friend for that favor. Decision made. Intellect kicks in again and notices a new problem with asking. This changes the picture, and my emotions respond in kind. It is back to ‘no’, I will not ask. Pressure is off, and the intellect looks at the problem. It figures out a solution. New vision, new emotions, it is back to ‘yes’, I will ask.
At Camp, when we negotiate, whether or not it involves horses and cowboys or cowgirls, we are aware of this principle operating in ourselves and our adversaries, and we work off this principle. We work to make the adversary feel comfortable telling us both yes and no. We know their intellect will be kicking in to justify their decision. Their heart rates will go down. As negotiators, we make nurturing statements to help maintain that atmosphere of calm, and ask interrogative-led questions to stimulate their now receptive intellect. In this way we build vision.
Our brain needs to make decisions in order to work properly. Our adversary’s brains need to make decisions in order to work properly. The decisions by themselves are not really trustworthy, but the entire body of work includes a sequence that builds reliably on itself: vision -emotion – decision – intellect – vision – emotion – decision –intellect, VEDI, VEDI, and so on until you reach a conclusion. With persistence and skill, this VEDI sequence builds and develops the capacity to complete a circle that allows us to get a working handle on our problems.A cowboy’s rope is useless alone, but put in motion as a lasso, and you can take down a wild bull.
Similarly, a professional negotiator’s intellect is useless alone, but put it in motion with vision, emotion, and decisions, and you can strike an agreement with the most challenging of adversaries.
Please share your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.
William Chase
Ever look in a mirror and feel insulted by what you see. I generally don’t, probably because I don’t expect much. I am a 45 year old man and being attractive is not really a priority. I’ve seen photos of myself though, or heard recordings of myself, that were pretty insulting to my ego. I couldn’t really fight back and blame the mirror or photo to recording. It is what it is. Or is it?
Reflections of ourselves carry much more weight than observations or comments from someone else. You can blame them and their faulty personality or perceptions if you don’t like what they say. But who do you blame when you are looking int he mirror? It is your expectation that makes it insulting or embarrassing, your perception or view of yourself.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We assign beauty to various elements of the world, as well as ugliness. What is the point of it all? Lately there has been this movement where women are fighting back against the super thin super model. They want to reclaim the definition of beauty. It is hard on my daughter who is thin. When she complains about being thin, no one takes her seriously. She is told she is lucky.
None of us are lucky. We are in the world and subject to its definitions and limiting ideas.
But what about the mirror? It just keeps reflecting us back to ourselves. What can we learn from it? I’d like to incorporate ‘mirrorness’ into myself to provide an opportunity to myself and others to look longer, to look at what is looking, and to learn how to see how to see.
