My wife says I am not nurturing.
My oldest daughter says it.
My younger two daughter’s say it . Actually, they cry when I am not.
I just had a client say it. He didn’t use the word ‘nurture’, but that is what he was saying. He says I don’t show feeling. I ask for feedback from all clients every session so it was welcome. He actually gave me examples of a few times when I managed to be nurturing with him.
I was thinking, ” Do you know how hard this job can be? You want me to be feeling every session? I can’t do that! I’ll crash and burn.”
So I got an issue here. I am just not sure what to do about it.
March 5, 2012 at 1:50 pm |
This remids me of one time in your back yard when Nate had an incident that made him upset while playing. I don’t recall the details but I do remember that my recognizing his situation from his point of view (as best as I could) made him feel that it was ok to feel the way he did.
I remember you being there and commenting on this. Maybe it was just validating his feelings, I forget how you put it but the general idea stayed with me. I guess just knowing the person you are looking for support from, understands where you are comming from goes a long way.