The majority of psychopaths manage to ply their trade without murdering people. By focusing too much on the most brutal and newsworthy examples of their behavior, we run the risk of remaining blind to the larger picture: psychopaths who don’t kill but who have a personal impact on our daily lives.”
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Early in our support group work with the victims of psychopaths they identified their partner or ex-partner as the Psychopath in their lives. This then became shortened to the expression “My P did……”. They experienced themselves as the victim of a psychopath. In many cases this was true and the mental health professional they were working with accurately diagnosed their partner and helped them get out of the relationship and restore their lives. However, they continued to see themselves as victims and held onto their rage at their partner and their shattered lives. In order to move on it became essential for them to look at themselves and their participation in the relationship and the wreckage of their lives.
It was out of this dynamic that the Sociopathic Style™ was born. By continuing to identify themselves as victims and labeling their partner as a Psychopath they were continuing to live a relationship style that was Sociopathic in nature. When we point the finger at the other person and label them as “sick”, disturbed and evil, i.e. we“demonize the other”; our behavior is Sociopathic Style™ behavior. They continued to identify the other as, “my P”, but were able to see that they were Sociopathic Style™ participants in the process.