Everyone recalls the invoking of the force in George Lucas’ Star Wars films. There was you regular ordinary force, and then there was the dark side of the force. The latter involved getting caught up in one’s feelings, particularly angry ones. The former resulted from this yoda-like receptiveness to the force’s possible existence and utility even though it seemed impossible initially that such a passive invitation to something so intangible could result in achieving ones desires.
We have a force in our mind that is more commonly referred to as the will. Semmelroth writes that “your will is the center in your mind that can initiate action. See it as a gentle and patient, but also persistent and intelligent, agent for action. Whatever the problem you face, you will be better off when you use your volition to initiate problem solving behavior along with the expectation that the problem will be solved that way, instead of pushing. “
Using our will to force things is sort of the mental equivalent of stuttering, the will is the first syllable initiating effort and if you keep harping on that first syllable, your going to lack direction and breadth of vision in you effort. When willing is made into an effort to control, it is merely an exercise in anger. Willing something really a soft smooth activity in and of itself. In contrast …. will , will, will, will , will, will, will ….. and you’ll see that your activity, look and feel like hurry.
All hurry is anger.
Don’t think so? Watch people’s expressions when they are in a hurry. Or try interrupting someone in a hurry.
An excellent place to begin the task of replacing willpower with intelligent and competent will is in everyday hurrying through tasks. You begin by slowing down when you are hurrying. You may say, “But suppose I need to or want to get something done quickly.” To be quick is different than to hurry.
>if you wish to speed up and you have a higher gear that you can comfortably shift into, do it.
>if you don’t have a higher gear, don’t hurry. Instead, look for a more efficient technique for doing the task. Then practice it.
>shoot for a pace that gives you a sense of competence.
In the effort to do something about your anger, no other thing will bring you more peace than governing your “motor” to run at a comfortable pace.
Read that last sentence very, very slowly – take a second at least between each word.