Prepare to be more confused about female sexuality

The article in the link below shows that the more you learn about female sexuality, the more  you realize you don’t know.  

One pretty solid research finding is that female sexuality  is relatively  ‘rudderless’, that is to say,  female physical sexual arousal is not linked to sexual desire  as strongly as it is with males. 

The most poignant example is the rape victim who experiences sexual arousal during a rape, but is subjectively repulsed at the same time. One researcher posits that the arousal is a survival mechanism designed to prevent vaginal injury, which could have often  resulted in fatal  infection or reduced fertility.  I guess involuntary sex was common enough that something like that needed to evolve in our species.  God help us.

Here is an excerpt from a sex researcher that was interesting . Do read the whole article though to get a better sense of how ignorant you are on this topic.  

Meana spoke about two elements that contribute to her thinking: first, a great deal of data showing that, as measured by the frequency of fantasy, masturbation and sexual activity, women have a lower sex drive than men, and second, research suggesting that within long-term relationships, women are more likely than men to lose interest in sex. Meana posits that it takes a greater jolt, a more significant stimulus, to switch on a woman’s libido than a man’s. And within a committed relationship, the crucial stimulus of being desired decreases considerably, not only because the woman’s partner loses a degree of interest but also, more importantly, because the woman feels that her partner is trapped, that a choice — the choosing of her — is no longer being carried out.

Yet while Meana minimised the role of relationships in stoking desire, she didn’t dispense with the sexual relevance, for women, of being cared for and protected.

“What women want is a real dilemma,” she said. Earlier, she had shown me as a joke a photograph of two control panels: one representing the workings of male desire, the second, female; the first with only a simple on-off switch, the second with countless knobs. “Women want to be thrown up against a wall but not truly endangered,” she said. “Women want a caveman and caring. If I had to pick an actor who embodies all the qualities, all the contradictions, it would be Denzel Washington. He communicates that kind of power and that he is a good man.”

I can hear my wife now – ” OMG, I don’t think Denzel is cute at all.” 

Whatever.

Me neither.

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article5802819.ece

Fittingly,  The Macho Response ( see blogroll) pointed me to this article.