Archive for August, 2011

’38 Hurricane Photo and Facts

August 26, 2011

Journal file photo

Outside City Hall and the Biltmore Hotel, the streets of Providence are left flooded by a massive storm surge in the Hurricane of 1938.

The storm surge from the ’38 hurricane rose 12 to 16 feet above sea level. It was made worse because the storm was moving so fast and it arrived at the same time as the autumnal high tide.

The ’38 hurricane destroyed more than 2,000 houses. It wiped 44 cottages off Westerly’s Napatree Point and swept clean Warwick’s Conimicut Point, Island Park in Portsmouth, Jerusalem, Galilee and Misquamicut.

After the storm, there were widespread complaints about inadequate forecasting by the National Weather Service. The complaints led to an overhaul of the service

Waiting for Hurricane #Irene brings back memories of 1938

August 26, 2011

 My great-grandfather, Walter Bradford Chase perished in this event. His car was found at Island Park in Portsmouth RI, so perhaps this wave took him.  My father was born a year later. 

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Island Park in Portsmouth, RI 1938

Island Park was destroyed by a breaker with a reported height of 30 to 40 feet. The New England Hurricane of 1938 traveled 600 miles in 12 hours, surprising southern New England and causing widespread destruction.

Getting an interview and a job

August 24, 2011

 

If you are ln the midst of this effort, you are more likely to get one if you know how to negotiate. You have to be able to negotiate with the receptionist to even have a shot. Otherwise, your application sits  there among hundreds. Nothing replaces being able to get to the right person to talk to, and knowing how to talk to them with confidence and emotional control.

Check out what you can do about this:

Start With No

Feel free to email me

wchase5@yahoo.com

or call me  (401) 996-6198. If I don’t pick up and you leave a message, I will call you back.

Thanks,

Wim

The most essential feature of philosophy: vision

August 15, 2011

From an article by Edip Yuksel. Find the whole thing here   http://www.yuksel.org/e/philosophy/noproof.htm

 

At the heart of any philosophy worth the name is vision, and it is from there it springs and takes its visible shape. When I say Ôvision’ I mean it: I do not want to romanticize. What is characteristic of philosophy is the piercing of that dead crust of tradition and convention, the breaking of those fetters which bind us to inherited preconceptions, so as to attain a new and broader way of looking at things. (Frederick Waismann, How I see philosophy)

Philosophic arguments enrich our vision and suggest different alternatives. For instance, let’s assume several philosophers riding in a buss hearing someone say “There are 38 persons in this bus.” They can refute this statement with different arguments. One may claim, “if we consider 6 month-old fetuses as persons there are 39 persons in this bus, since there is a pregnant lady here.” Another may add, “if we consider animals as persons there are 40 persons here, since the blind man has a dog.” One may interrupt, “if we are really referring to persons, not to bodies, then there are probably more than 40 persons on this bus, since some of the passengers may have multiple personalities.” This argument may continue. In the end:

1. The amount of money paid for tickets more likely won’t change.

2. People will learn how inexact and unreliable is their daily language.

3. The lawyers will try to find a way to exploit this tricky language.

4. The debate on abortion will focus on the definition of Ôpersonhood.’

5. Some of the passengers will have a feast of intellectual entertainment, while some others will plug their ears.

I won’t liken philosophers to a gang of blind wannabe zoologists trying to describe an elephant by touching her body from different positions. Philosophers, develop and create new perspectives for old problems. As a by-product of their zeal they create many new problems. Nevertheless, each argument, by opening another peephole from a different direction contributes to enlarge our vision. Occasionally, one of those peepholes changes the whole picture.

How do you see it? 

Some of my favorite negotiations are philosophical ones, and since I am a therapist, i have the pleasure of doing it all day long. So many peepholes…so little time.

Start With No

File down those claws

August 15, 2011

One thing about making anger and irritation an habitual response to problem is that it tends to lead to your claws getting very sharp. Claws for the most part refers to one’s tongue. It is a good thing the tongue is secure in our mouth because it would do some damage if it had launch capabilities. I have sharpened my claws throughout my life and I am trying to do the opposite now – I file them down. I think of situations that are problematic and imagine a softer initial response. In the past,  I would sort of lazily congratulate myself for being RIGHT and that would leave my claws sharp for the next time the problem arose. I’d typically react as I felt when I last thought about it when I was feeling intensely about it , even if I didn’t really agree with that perspective anymore intellectually. Feeling RIGHT is such a boost for one’s pride and ego that it is very tempting to just leave off with that feeling and supporting thoughts.

There are several benefit of desharpening your claws. Unsharpened claws not only do less damage in a confrontation, they are easier to maintain. They cost less energy and time which will add to your strength. It is hard work to keep your eyes on your claws when they are very sharp and can rip someone up. If you do actually need to inflict pain on someone, as rare a situation as that may be, your extra strength will more than make up for your duller claws.  Duller claws also allow for more uses for your paws.

Getting an interview and a job

August 15, 2011

 I am making this post a Monday ritual> I hope it helps someone.

If you are ln the midst of this effort, you are more likely to get one if you know how to negotiate. You have to be able to negotiate with the receptionist to even have a shot. Otherwise, your application sits  there among hundreds. Nothing replaces being able to get to the right person to talk to, and knowing how to talk to them with confidence and emotional control.

Check out what you can do about this:

Start With No

Feel free to email me

wchase5@yahoo.com

or call me  (401) 996-6198. If I don’t pick up and you leave a message, I will call you back.

Thanks,

Wim

Putting my daughter in a bind

August 13, 2011

Negotiation impacts all of life, and in some ways the impact with family is the most important. My15 yo daughter is a high school soccer player and throughout August they have Captain’s practices.  My wife and I work full-time and transportation is a problem. My wife and I had to rearrange our schedules to make it possible for her to attend, mostly my wife, and I didn’t want her to have so much of the burden. She had to go to work earlier to be able to do it. So I started to bug my daughter more than I care to admit to ask friends if we could carpool. She wouldn’t allow me to call their parents because it just wasn’t a cool thing to do. Her friends seemed to just put off giving her a straight answer. It got very frustrating for all of us, and may have even alienated some of those friends a bit.

Well, I never should have set her up that way. This is a parent to  parent deal. I didn’t go to real decision maker. Her friends couldn’t make the decision.

So if my daughter won’t let me speak to the decision maker – how could I make that happen? There is a way. You need this component of a system to negotiate effectively. Not to mention that it is important in business ie. getting past the receptionist or other blockers to the real decision maker.

Psychological Dingleberries, Donald Rumsfeld, and You

August 11, 2011

Ok – most of the dingleberries I have had in life I have not been aware of, but when I am aware – I go do something about it.

What is a psychological dingleberry?

 You don’t know what you don’t know. You don’t even know what question ask in dingleberry  situation.

You know less then diddly (not me, but actual ‘diddly’ , squat)  

So how do you proceed?

I think you need a system that helps you to automatically expand your focus to pick up the unknown unknowns.

When we interact with other people, this would require a system of negotiation.

Do you have one?

Remember Donald Rumsfeld’s favorite press conference> let me quote him:

There are known knowns. These are things we know that we know. There are known unknowns. That is to say, there are things that we know we don’t know. But there are also unknown unknowns. There are things we don’t know we don’t know.

 Rumsfeld understood, but based on how ineffective he was in his interaction with the press, he lacked a system. AS he put it:

I’m not into this detail stuff. I’m more concepty.

  • Interview with the Washington Post January 09, 2002

Not much of negotiator either, and he didn’t claim to be:

           I shouldn’t get into … this is diplomacy, and I don’t do diplomacy.

So I invite you to take a free look at a system, and realize, if you say no, I got you right where I want you – that is the basis of the system …honoring people’s right to say no to you, and you to them.

 

Blaming the psychiatrist for depression isn’t so crazy as it sounds

August 10, 2011

Another gem from the heroicagencies listserve:

there is an excellent article called  “Psychiatrist effects in the psychopharmacological treatment of depression”, by McKay, Imel, and Wampold, Journal of Affective Disorders 92 (2006) 287-290.Their conclusion: the top third psychiatrists have better outcomes even with a placebo than the bottom third psychiatrists with an SSRI. ´The person of the psychiater makes a difference in the response to anti-depressant medication´.

Peter
 
So how do you know you have a ‘top psychitrist”. There is no surefire way, but I’d start by asking yourself if you feel heard, understood, and respected by them. If it isn’t the medicine alone , and it isn’t magic, than it must be some positive deeling you get while interacting with them.  One good test – see how they handle it if you disagree with them.
 
 

Amazing photo from Great Britain’s riots

August 10, 2011


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