I am referring to how difficult it can be to get along with family, to work out problems and not have it turn into a freak show. Odd since we are so highly motivated usually to help each other be happy. Motivation is not enough.
I think the problem is that with family we run with a lot of assumptions . We assume we know people and what they think and what they will do. As a result, we get in trouble. Those assumptions make us careless.
With strangers, we are less liklely to make assumptions. We are more careful and more observant.
So maybe treating everyone like a stranger, especially the ones you love, is the beginning of a remedy.
Fewer aaumptions that way.