I think that the proper Christian response to the question of gay marriage can be found in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, 5: 3-14.
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater —has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.[a] 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. 13 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.
For the sake of argument, let’s not assume that we know anything about what sexual immorality is or isn’t. Actually, in verse 9-10, Paul guides us to avoid assumptions. He writes:
Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord.
To me this means that we ought to do the best we can to live as children of light, being good, and keep our mind open to find out what pleases the Lord. In other words, there is more to learn about being good, and we ought to try to find out what that is. So how do we do that? Paul gives us instructions:
Don’t have anything to do with bad deeds, but let them be exposed. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
To me this means not to react – do nothing in support or against the ‘fruitless deeds”. Also, it does not say to avoid the person who does the deeds, just the deeds. Also, he says …7do not be partners with them. I am not sure what is meant by partners, but at the very least it means heterosexuals should not get into a sexual relationship with someone who likes the same sex.
Then Paul says:
12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret.
So don’t talk about what they do. Mind your business. Pretty straightforward. Interesting because Paul instructs us to avoid people who want to talk about these deeds but not the people who do them, with the caveat that you should not become their partner ( again – meaning unclear how broad a definition is implied here).
Expose the deeds.
Let it out into the light and it will become light.
14 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.
So doesn’t legalizing gay marriage do this – expose their deeds? It takes it out of the darkness, and into the light. Might gay marriage take excuses away from gay people who have lived a certain reckless lifestyle and claim that they have no choice? What about the lies that gays tell themselves and heterosexual people they marry and have children with , often resulting in divorce? Who knows what will happen if we get out of the way and let their deeds be exposed via legal marital contracts?
We are not supposed to pretend to know ahead of time, because we are still …find(ing) out what pleases the Lord.
6 Let no one deceive you with empty words…
There is a lot of talk on both sides of this issue. At least from the Christian side, I think we should look past the talk and just let this into the open light and be exposed. Talk is part of the darkening process.
Let gay adults form marital contracts with each other. Let them into the light. Leave the rest up to God.
I think the bible backs me up, even if it does call homosexuality an abomination in Leviticus. As it was practiced then, it may very well have been an abomination. But what will bringing it into the light reveal?
Will you suspend judgement to put yourself in a position to find out? A greedy person insists on having the answers prior to due diligence.