Most of us have heard the saying, “What fires together, wires together.” A lot of it is not helpful. Without flexibility of attention, our old wiring will be our destiny.
So how so we work with it? We want to have an experience of something helpful. The intenton to be helpful to oneself or others is compassion. It is developed by paying attention without judgement or striving to whatever is happening.
Just sit and allow whatever comes up to come up.
You will feel some things you do not like.
Instead of feeling bad about feeling bad, let the suffering be an opprtunity to practice compassion.
See what it is like to slow things down, allow whatever is happening to happen. Stop trying or doing. This is not about getting something right.
Notice what happens. Then notice what happens next. What is possible now? Allow playfulness. Allow compassion. Allow confidence.
Nothing changes unless you feel safe, safe to make mistakes, to bring attention to them, to live with them. The process gives greater equanimity and balance. Give yourself permission to not know.
You can live well with things you don’t like. You don’t have to be a victim. You are not a child.
“Letting it all be” doesn’t mean you stop efforts to improve your situation or your mindset.
The strain in pain lies mainly in the brain.